Wednesday, July 11, 2007
Are you having one of those days when a couple of your children can't seem to stop bickering with each other?
Try this: have them sit together, holding hands for 5 minutes and pray about the situation and for each other. We tried this technique on the 4th of July with our 12 and 14 year old girls when they just couldn't get along for more than a few minutes while they were together helping with our celebration preparations. It was driving me nuts! Finally, I told them they had to do this. You would have thought that I had just asked the 12 year old to hold a red hot poker but she did it. And the results where...REMARKABLE! (Thanks God!) The rest of the day they were cooperative, kind, really a lot help, and a joy to have around; I couldn't have done without them.
And lest you think that it only works for older kids - the other day, just the threat of having to sit on the couch, holding hands with each other, (I hadn't even mentioned the praying part yet) got two of my boys (ages 9 & 7) to quit fighting with each other and play together kindly.
(Obviously, you can adjust the time needed according to the age of the children involved. Maybe you can tell them that they have to sit and pray together until they're ready to cooperate and work/play together nicely. If they're right back to bickering, send them back to the couch together for more prayer & quiet time.)
Works for me!
More great WFMW tips.
Update: If you're not comfortable the the praying part of this, you could modify it and just have your kids sit together holding hands and then have each of them take turns listing 5 (or more) things that they like and appreciate about the other. If they finish quickly, then they would sit quietly together.